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Our residence or shelter is a basic need that is really essential for us to live a decent life with our family.
It’s best to have one’s own abode so that you won’t have to worry about your next payment for the rent and you don’t have to worry about having to deal with landlords, specially those who have twisted brains.
If you’ve been renting, you would know what I mean. Finding a good place, is really important. Having a home is better but you have to know the best deals and know stuff such as mortgage quotes so that you can really maximize your resources instead of wasting it away and finding out few years after that you can’t afford to keep your home anymore.
We are thankful that we are in the right place now, after searching for so long.
We have seen how faithful and good God is to our family, despite of our lack of experience and enough knowledge on what we are to face. To add is the fact, that we are still very young and unprepared indeed to start out a family.
But, we made it. Our baby is now, 1 year old. We have been together as a family, for 2 years. We have changed houses a total of 5 times I think.
We experienced all kind of difficulties and struggles that almost ended everything. But, we are still here and we are still fighting.
I will continue to fight for my family and I promise to myself that I will do whatever it takes to improve our lives, so we can experience becoming free and financially independent.
I want my child to have more options when she grows up, and not become hooked up with a low profile job just because she has to survive.
I want her to enjoy life and have time and resources to discover her full potential. Now, that’s a mother’s thinking.

I never had a happy and complete family, but I have one now, and I plan to keep it forever.

When I came at the work office, I thought of sending my husband a message, just a plain simple one, I sent it to him through chikka, from my pc to his cellphone because we don’t have computer at home. I work at night and so, we cannot be together at night. These are our exchange of messages, you might just find it sweet.

Irish Blanca Digamon: hon, I arrived here at work safe, and I have just started to work now. Don’t forget to sleep early and most of all don’t forget to pray. You might want to take a shower, if you feel hot. I love you! :)
Honey Ronel: Hon thanks God for you arrived safe. Yes hon I will pray before I sleep. Thank you for being thoughtful ..Take care and please go home early tomorrow. I love you too!

I thought of sending him a quote! You might find it OA, hehe!
Irish Blanca Digamon: My life is so much better since you came into it.I love everything about you,from your beautiful big heart to your loving unselfish soul.You are my soulmate forever and always.You are the sunshine that puts a smile in my heart.I will love you till my last breath.I will always be here for you my love, till eternity. (this is an original dedication I got from Lovingyou.com)
Honey Ronel: Hon, same to you, I will love you till death. Thank you for all you’ve done for me and for our family family. Your the best partner and honey for me. I know you can achieve your goals because you are a good person.

Now, isn’t that BEAUTIFUL? It just made my day… thank you to my loving husband.

I will be taking the level 1 certification test already this thursday at 2 pm, along with my batch mates. If I will pass this test, I will now be a regular call center agent here in the new company where I moved. I’ve been waiting for this, since it was supposed to be last month, but it has been delayed for reasons I don’t know. Whew, I really want to stay in this job. If we will not pass, maybe we will undergo probationary again and will be given another chance. I’m excited and hopefully I will be able to make it, because I’ve been comfortable in this job and I learned to love it somehow.

This is a picture of me and some of my batch mates. There’s only one lacking here, she doesn’t like to be pictured. If you take a picture of her, she will hide or turn her back. She’s somewhat like a loner, and she’s very very sensitive. But, she’s my friend and I like her because she’s a good person. That’s me on the leftmost side by the way.

I want to stay in this call center for long, so that I can earn enough money for my family, and also I’d like to be a trainer someday. Shhhh, that’s just our secret okay? I never shared that with anyone. It seems far as of now, but I will be working on it, and I know someday I will get that. I love to teach and I think I’m really good when it comes to teaching and explaining lessons.
As for now, I will be on day off for two days again, and I will be studying at that time. My sister also asked me to write a project for her. She is a doctoral student now, and she is at New York, studying at a school there, I just forgot the name. She always ask me to do her work, because they have lots of projects and she can’t do it by her own. Aside from that, my sister really loves to let me do the work, because she loves my writing. I’m proud of her, for her achievement. She graduated Cum Laude in College, and graduated magna cum laude during her masteral but sometimes, I wonder why she has little confidence on her self. I consider her very blessed. Perhaps, its because she really served the Lord much, specially while she was still here in the Philippines. She was a member of the Catholic League for Women (CWL), choir at church and a president of Lourdes – a group of young catholic women. She improved right now, because of her achievements. But still, its not the full confidence that she needs. On the other hand, we are the opposite because I am confident and I do believe in my capabilities and in what I can do. Though I haven’t achieved much aside from being Valedictorian in high school, I still feel confident that I can do anything I will to do. My motto is there is nothing I cannot do, with God. I believe in myself and I believe that I can do anything I set my mind too. Perhaps, this has been a result of my addiction to self-growth and self development books. But, it’s a good addiction anyhow. No regrets on my end. My wisdom right now, has a lot to do with these books. I actually have a collection of them, some got lost because people borrowed and I forgot who they are, and they forgot to return or simply just ignored it.

This is my sister, she is in New York right now.
We miss her a lot.

I also put that always in my husband’s mind, because he also lacks confidence in himself because of the way he was raised. He was raised in a family that relies on God alone, and has this “bahala na” attidude, wherein they just let fate lead their lives without even doing their part. He thinks he is not smart and he can’t do this, and blah blah blah because he never excel in school. You know, I know those stuff because we were classmates before. And to tell you, I never even talked to this guy, who is now my husband for the 4 years we’re sharing the same room in high school. Yes, we were classmates. But my friends were the popular and bright students, while he was with the “nobody” group. So what I did was, to tell him always that he is capable of doing anything he wills to do. I motivate him to excel in what he does and to avoid being passive. As his partner, I observed and scrutinized his character and to tell you honestly there are a lot of things he can be proud of. I let him see the “real him”, and I let him open his eyes to his capabilities. I let him see how good he is in playing piano and guitar. I tell him he is a very responsible father and husband. I tell him, he is a very very good servant to God, which I salute a hundred times. He never drinks, he never smoke, he never go out just for fun, while we are left at home having difficulty with all the chores. He loves our child so much. He loves me unconditionally. He does the laundry at times if he’s not at work and he does everything for me and for our family. And I tell him that even if he doesn’t know how to use the computer (which is fine because I’m going to teach him as soon as we will be able to buy a computer), even he can’t speak English well, even if he is not academically smart I tell him he has his own worth and own strengths. Right now, I can sense that he had a change of attitude. He has been more confident and capable. If we have a problem, he doesn’t just accept it. He tries to do something about it, which he never did before. He has dreams, plans or aspirations for our family, which to tell you honestly, he never had before too. He believes in himself and focuses on what he is good at and he is starting to go for excellence. I’m so proud of him and also I never regret that I forced his real self to come out, the way he let me come out and be my best too. I believe that is what relationship is about, bringing out the best in each other.

This is my man. This is the man I wouldn’t exchange for any other man.
Except if it’s still HIM. I am looking forward to spending my whole life with him and our child and my family: mom and sister.
You know already why my dad is not listed.

Ever since I have always loved to give out advice. My friends, tells me I’m good at it. I love to listen to a person’s burden so that they can have an outlet for release. Most of all, I want to contribute in making that person feel better, by saying the exact words that would clear his mind. I’ve been wanting to start a category, wherein I would be able to give out advices to people. This evening, when I came to work, and when I open my friendster email I got this message from one of my friendster friends, which encouraged me to start out a part of my blog solely for advices.

Here is what he wrote: (some parts have been edited/translated in english)

Halo guyz….fix me cause I’m totally broken huhuhu!! its really hurts so much……
…me and my girlfriend already broke up! she broke up with me without any reason at all.. im such a fool and a stupid…
(sakit jud sa girls if mapul.an ilisan dayon ka…)
I NEED ADVICE.

Dear Brokenhearted,
First of all, I would like to tell you that I admire you for having the courage to vent out what you feel. Most guys, would be ashamed to do that. I understand how you feel, and I’m glad to have the opportunity to share my advice to you. It’s good that your releasing your feelings and not just keeping it on yourself, which is not a good habit but commonly practice specifically by men, perhaps for fear of being laughed at. Releasing our emotions and sentiments is one way indeed of getting over with something. What I think about this, is that you should be strong and stand up, I know you can make it. She’s not the one giving you life. It’s not other people who can fix your broken heart, but only you and God. As to your girlfriend, who just left for no reason at all, that reflects her character. A woman like that, doesn’t deserve your tears. You will find a better person, who deserves your love and attention. As the song of Leah Salonga goes “Even if, you mean the whole wide world to me, I can forget you, wait and see. I can be strong even without you. I can’t waste my life forever hoping you’d come back to me, but deep inside I know I’l be waiting here for you.” So, you ought to remember that song, every time you feel the pain, and it will make you strong. Don’t come after her like you can’t live without her. When you would finally meet the right person, you will be thankful this girl left you behind. Move on, and heal your wounds. And never rush in a relationship again, just because you want someone to mend you. That’s what we call “panakip-butas”. Make sure, that when you love again, you are complete and whole. I myself, had to go through a lot of pain and disappointment in relationships before I finally met the man who DESERVES my love and loyalty. And lastly, don’t be afraid to be hurt because these pains will server as your teacher. It will teach you the truth of life and love. Goodluck to your life, and please don’t ever think of ending your life or something like that, just because of this. Your life is valuable, it’s a gift so treasure it. God Bless and I wish you the best of everything:)

If you want to get some advice from me too, you can email me at ctc_melody@hotmail.com, with the subject Dear Irish.

When we were still dating, we never had a chance to take pictures together. But finally, sometime in December 2007, we were able to do that. We enjoyed this moment a lot. We had a great time. After taking pictures we sang at the karaoke and then we also ate dinner at the foodcourt. I will never forget this moment w/ my everdearest husband, Ronel.