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You Don’t Have To Keep Up With the Joneses
Accidents are inevitable. The most common accidents in the world are road accidents which involves cars. Having a car is great. But, there are a lot of people who failed to use it properly. Some waste gasoline and drive for no good reason. Some buy expensive car parts just to show off to others. Women even would go for guys with wheels. Right? Before we jump directly and keep on buying all the luxuries in the world, let’s think first if its even necessary. There are a lot of people who are hungry and who have nothing to eat. Look at yourself, you are not even contented. You keep on looking for the next NEW thing. Life is better if we live in a simple way. We don’t have to be in competition with each other. You don’t have to keep up with the joneses. All you have to do is become better each day, and to learn to live with what you have, and who you are.
Ten Rules for Effective Mentoring
Ten Rules for Effective Mentoring (by John Roberts)
I do subscribe to John Robert’s Rebel with a Cause to get success principles like these. Everyday they send me one, and I usually like the content most of the time.
1. Set High Expectations
Expectations should be expressed, negotiated, and
agreed upon at the beginning of a mentoring relationship.
Sometimes mentoring proves disappointing. This
disappointment can frequently be traced back to differing
or unfulfilled expectations.
2. Know the Purpose
Jointly agree on the purpose of the relationship. When
you each know what you want and why you want it, you
have the basis for building a wonderful relationship.
3. Stick to The Schedule
All good things come to those who meet consistently.
Determine the regularity of interaction and stick to it.
4. Be Accountable
Determine the type of accountability. Mutual
responsibility is an important mentoring dynamic! It
does not just happen – you must plan for it. Agree
together on how you will establish and monitor mentoring
tasks.
The heart of empowerment lies not only in what the
mentor shares but also in the tasks the mentor gives to
the protégé. You must complete the tasks in order to
benefit. Accountability is the prod to make sure this
happens, because change rarely takes place without it.
It can occur many ways: phone calls, probing questions
during meetings, or a planned evaluation time.
5. Develop Communication Mechanisms
It the mentor sees or learns of an area of need or
concern for you – and it may be negative – how and when
do you want your mentor to communicate it to you?
Determine this important communication mechanism is
advance so that it causes no undue harm or ill feeling
later on.
6. Keep it Confidential
Clarify the level of confidentiality. You both need to
make it clear when something you share should be treated
as confidential and never, ever violate this trust.
7. Determine the Time frame
Determine the length of your relationship and by all
means avoid open-ended mentorship. That way both of you
can back out without losing face if the mentoring
relationship does not meet your expectations. On the
other hand, if it goes well you can continue the
relationship and set up a new evaluation point.
8. Measure Progress
Evaluate the relationship from time to time. Inspecting
progress from time to time allows you to reinforce
predetermined expectations and agreed upon standards of
performance.
9. Encourage Feedback
Encourage your protégé to ask for feedback. Although
difficult to hear at times, feedback is critical to
growth and development. Demonstrate that you are open to
hear ideas and suggestions to bring out areas that you
may not have discussed at the beginning of your
relationship. They may want you to keep on a eye on
certain blind spots that were initially overlooked.
10. Say Goodbye
A happy ending for a mentoring experience involves
closure, in which both parties evaluate, recognize how
and where empowerment has occurred, and mutually end the
mentoring relationship. What frequently happens in
successfully closed mentoring is an ongoing friendship
that allows for occasional mentoring and future
interweaving of lives as needed.
Inspiring Quote for every Beginner
I got this message in my mail box today from the success quote where I am subscribed. I like it, so I’m sharing it with you.
You walk into a karate school for a first visit and see kicking,
punching, blocking, chopping and flipping. It can be intimidating if
you’ve never done these things. Or, you may look and feel awkward
learning to snow ski or roller blade or taking a foreign language.
But persist; this is your first day and there will never be
another first day. Any new endeavor may be tough in the beginning.
Accept this. You must believe in yourself. Initially, critics may
feel free to ridicule your ideas and goals as foolish and
unrealistic. When you ultimately succeed, everyone will claim to
have been on your team from the beginning. Take action and persist.
Applaud those who try, because the first step is often the toughest.
if you want to have more of quotes and inspirational lines like this you can go to
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Here is what I can say:
Every person has some sort of fear for anything which is unknown. People love to stay with their comfort zones, because of fear. Fear of failure, fear of criticism etc. Most of the time, we put so much importance on what people might think about us, so we play it safe. It’s not easy to go out from this comfort zone, as we don’t know what will happen. But I believe, that success requires us to stretch ourselves out by doing things which we usually don’t do. Things that will improve our lives and our entire being. As what this success quote implies, all we have to do is to bare with the feeling of awkwardness at the beginning stage, and to keep on moving. Until, we can master that fear and advance to the next level.
