I’m pretty busy right now, I’ll be starting out a new part time job, which has something to do with writing. It’s not blogging, I guess I’ve sort of give up already on trying to be accepted by payperpost and smorty as well as other blogging sites. Anyway, it’s okay. I’m not in a hurry. Well, I’m not really totally giving up on it, but I’ve decided I will take it slow. I am also starting out a new blog. Whew! I’m excited about it, I really am. I think it’s gonna be a good website. I’ve been thinking on it, and now I started it out, I’m happy. I’m not yet exposing it thought, I’m still planning to create more post and to do some changes on the template and something like that. But, don’t worry I’ll give you a heads up, once I’m ready to show it. Hopefully you will like it. I’m happy Filipinos are already into this blogging mania. I am proud of my “kababayans” despite all of the controversies our country is facing. Goodluck to all aspiring bloggers out there. Have a nice day to all of you. I’ll be away for some time, I will be on day off. I don’t have computer at home, I’ll see if I can go to a cafe or something. But, I’m thinking I want to spend my 2 days off, just totally resting. So, if I wouldn’t be able to do any updates and to check on your sites, I do apologize. I’ll be back as soon as I’m back to work. Love you all!

My shift already ended, and now I gotta go. During my shift, while there were no calls, all I did was to study and read, read, and read on any blogging topic. Anything that gives ideas or tips on how to improve stats. So, all in all, I’ve been staring in the computer for more or less 8 hours already. Even during my breaks, I still stayed here. I realized, blogging is really not that easy. There are a lot of things to consider. Success in blogging requires a lot of patience and persistence. Hopefully, I would stick through this, until I would be able to achieve my aim of getting to the top like the others. Well, nothing is impossible. Yesterday my site traffic was still 8,858,069, and right now it is 4,193,611. Yeah, something to celebrate. But, we’ll soon be getting there. You know what I mean.:)

Ten Rules for Effective Mentoring (by John Roberts)
I do subscribe to John Robert’s Rebel with a Cause to get success principles like these. Everyday they send me one, and I usually like the content most of the time.

1. Set High Expectations
Expectations should be expressed, negotiated, and
agreed upon at the beginning of a mentoring relationship.
Sometimes mentoring proves disappointing. This
disappointment can frequently be traced back to differing
or unfulfilled expectations.

2. Know the Purpose
Jointly agree on the purpose of the relationship. When
you each know what you want and why you want it, you
have the basis for building a wonderful relationship.

3. Stick to The Schedule
All good things come to those who meet consistently.
Determine the regularity of interaction and stick to it.

4. Be Accountable
Determine the type of accountability. Mutual
responsibility is an important mentoring dynamic! It
does not just happen - you must plan for it. Agree
together on how you will establish and monitor mentoring
tasks.

The heart of empowerment lies not only in what the
mentor shares but also in the tasks the mentor gives to
the protégé. You must complete the tasks in order to
benefit. Accountability is the prod to make sure this
happens, because change rarely takes place without it.
It can occur many ways: phone calls, probing questions
during meetings, or a planned evaluation time.

5. Develop Communication Mechanisms
It the mentor sees or learns of an area of need or
concern for you - and it may be negative - how and when
do you want your mentor to communicate it to you?
Determine this important communication mechanism is
advance so that it causes no undue harm or ill feeling
later on.

6. Keep it Confidential
Clarify the level of confidentiality. You both need to
make it clear when something you share should be treated
as confidential and never, ever violate this trust.

7. Determine the Time frame
Determine the length of your relationship and by all
means avoid open-ended mentorship. That way both of you
can back out without losing face if the mentoring
relationship does not meet your expectations. On the
other hand, if it goes well you can continue the
relationship and set up a new evaluation point.

8. Measure Progress
Evaluate the relationship from time to time. Inspecting
progress from time to time allows you to reinforce
predetermined expectations and agreed upon standards of
performance.

9. Encourage Feedback
Encourage your protégé to ask for feedback. Although
difficult to hear at times, feedback is critical to
growth and development. Demonstrate that you are open to
hear ideas and suggestions to bring out areas that you
may not have discussed at the beginning of your
relationship. They may want you to keep on a eye on
certain blind spots that were initially overlooked.

10. Say Goodbye
A happy ending for a mentoring experience involves
closure, in which both parties evaluate, recognize how
and where empowerment has occurred, and mutually end the
mentoring relationship. What frequently happens in
successfully closed mentoring is an ongoing friendship
that allows for occasional mentoring and future
interweaving of lives as needed.

Love Glitter Pictures

I got this tagged from LIZA. I personally asked her to let me have it, since I really like it.

1> What does true love mean to you? – When you can stand to see the person in his/her worst figure/look and your feelings dont change. It also means commitment, sticking with the person you love no matter what happens. Come what may.

2> How do you know you’re really in love? – When I’m willing to sacrifice for that person.

3> How many times in your life have you fallen in love? – haha! a lot of times already. been hurt many times, but I never gave up on love, and I’m thankful, because I ended up to be with the best person I’d ever known.

4> Have you ever fallen out of true love because you were mad at the moment? – No, anger is not a reason to fall out of love. If you allow anger to do so, that’s not love at all.

5> Do you feel love and physical attraction are the same thing? - No, but as we all know, physical attraction is most of the time the stepping stone of a relationship. But they’re totally different.

6> If your true love became ill or disfigured would you continue to love them the same way? – My husband always ask me about this question, he is afraid that I might leave him if it happens to him. What he doesn’t know, is that my love will never change, no matter what happens to him. So the answer is yes, and even better.

7> Should anyone else be able to tell you who to love or not love? – No, I’m stubborn and hate to be dictated.

8> Do you believe people that ended up divorced were ever truly in love? – No, because if they were, they would do everything to stick with each other.

9> Would you give up something you want for someone you love? – Yes. When I love, I do love truly, madly, and you know whats next.

10> If you truly love someone do you feel it should be unconditional? – Yes, true love should be unconditional. You don’t love the person just because he’s rich, because he do his best to make you happy, because he is famous or beautiful/handsome. You love, because you love. That
s it, period.

Tagging JOY and CARLOTA.

I just recently signed up as a blogger of Snapbomb. It’s a site where bloggers can join and review about products and services available on the site. Aside from that, advertisers can also have the chance to make their products and services popular across the globe. It’s a great website, because the instructions are clear and simple. You don’t even have to wait for 1-2 days before your blog can be approved. So, if you want to monetize your blog, I suggest you join this site as a blogger right away. You just have to add your blog and after a few minutes, they will calculate the value of your blog, which will determine the amount that will be paid to you for every post you submit. I personally recomment this site, its great! Another breakthrough in the whole wide web.

Ever since I have always loved to give out advice. My friends, tells me I’m good at it. I love to listen to a person’s burden so that they can have an outlet for release. Most of all, I want to contribute in making that person feel better, by saying the exact words that would clear his mind. I’ve been wanting to start a category, wherein I would be able to give out advices to people. This evening, when I came to work, and when I open my friendster email I got this message from one of my friendster friends, which encouraged me to start out a part of my blog solely for advices.

Here is what he wrote: (some parts have been edited/translated in english)

Halo guyz….fix me cause I’m totally broken huhuhu!! its really hurts so much……
…me and my girlfriend already broke up! she broke up with me without any reason at all.. im such a fool and a stupid…
(sakit jud sa girls if mapul.an ilisan dayon ka…)
I NEED ADVICE.

Dear Brokenhearted,
First of all, I would like to tell you that I admire you for having the courage to vent out what you feel. Most guys, would be ashamed to do that. I understand how you feel, and I’m glad to have the opportunity to share my advice to you. It’s good that your releasing your feelings and not just keeping it on yourself, which is not a good habit but commonly practice specifically by men, perhaps for fear of being laughed at. Releasing our emotions and sentiments is one way indeed of getting over with something. What I think about this, is that you should be strong and stand up, I know you can make it. She’s not the one giving you life. It’s not other people who can fix your broken heart, but only you and God. As to your girlfriend, who just left for no reason at all, that reflects her character. A woman like that, doesn’t deserve your tears. You will find a better person, who deserves your love and attention. As the song of Leah Salonga goes “Even if, you mean the whole wide world to me, I can forget you, wait and see. I can be strong even without you. I can’t waste my life forever hoping you’d come back to me, but deep inside I know I’l be waiting here for you.” So, you ought to remember that song, every time you feel the pain, and it will make you strong. Don’t come after her like you can’t live without her. When you would finally meet the right person, you will be thankful this girl left you behind. Move on, and heal your wounds. And never rush in a relationship again, just because you want someone to mend you. That’s what we call “panakip-butas”. Make sure, that when you love again, you are complete and whole. I myself, had to go through a lot of pain and disappointment in relationships before I finally met the man who DESERVES my love and loyalty. And lastly, don’t be afraid to be hurt because these pains will server as your teacher. It will teach you the truth of life and love. Goodluck to your life, and please don’t ever think of ending your life or something like that, just because of this. Your life is valuable, it’s a gift so treasure it. God Bless and I wish you the best of everything:)

If you want to get some advice from me too, you can email me at ctc_melody@hotmail.com, with the subject Dear Irish.

I’m very sleepy tonight. I’m currently at work, and don’t really feel like writing. Oh! (yeah? and here you are writing?) Perhaps a little bit disappointed. I just realized that I totally misunderstood things. I thought that the higher your traffic rank is, the more people visit and patronize your site. But through Joy’s comment, I realized it’s vice versa. I made some searches, and I found out that the top sites are the ones with the lowest number, which for now is yahoo, currently at rank number 1. Whew! I celebrated something which shouldn’t be. But’ I’m happy for finding out something new. Everyday, I learn about blogging and I know that it’s just leading me closer to my dream. Perhaps, this would be a silent day for me. Not really posting anything here, but perhaps tomorrow, I’d be back. I’m just really sleepy. I think it’s the effect of the 9-vita supplement I started taking, just this morning. It’s for people who lack appetite, people who are undernourished and would like to gain weight. Yeah, I saw Ghia, one of my batchmates/coworkers, and she told me that I look thin now. Alright, well, it’s time to wake up. I gotta do something about my health. Not for vain or any other purposes, but for the sake of my family. So, I need to be more focused and to give importance on my health, specifically on my weight. I’m losing a lot of weight, and this is not good. Perhaps, it’s the night shift which is too stressful for me, or my lack of appetite, or my inconsistent food intake, or it could also be the pill I’m currently taking. I don’t really know. Well, I promise, from now, I’ll never take my health for granted.

It’s been few hours since I first found out that my traffic site is now very big. Imagine from 11, its now 8,858,069. Whew! This is like a roller coaster ride! Haha! So, shocking. I rebooted my pc, turned my browsers off then turned it back on, it’s still the same stats. I downloaded the widget for showing the current traffic rank, but its still the same. Well, okay, it already sinked in. I can now believe that its real, and not just a computer problem or a mistake of some sorts. Well, I’m happy about that, as contrary to what I said earlier that I’m not happy about it, because I thought my traffic update is not working properly, or someone might have hacked my system, and any other weird ideas and possibilities that came into my CREATIVE mind. There is another thing that made me happy, I just found out that my site is now cached in google. Whew! Congratulations to myself, I’m really happy. As a newbie in the blogging world, this is already a great achievement for me. Now, my next goal is to be accepted in payperpost, smorty or any other site that offers chances for being a paid blogger. I’d like to thank CARLOTA for her advice and suggestions, and also to JOY who was extremely helpful as well. Well, I gotta go for now. I need to go back home and be with my family and get some rest to be ready for the next shift.

. What is the title of the book nearest to you?
==> there’s no book near me right now

2. Stretch your left arm out as far as you can. What’s there?
==> CPU of my work computer

3. What is the last thing you watched on TV?
==> Magic Bubbles

4. With the exception of the computer,what can you hear?
==> voices of my co-call center agents

5. When did you last step outside? What were you doing?
==> yesterday evening, on my way to work

6. Before you started this survey, what did you look at?
==> carlota’s websites, whom i got this tag, http://www.charlota.org/

7. What are you wearing?
==> t - shirt, jacket and pants

8. Did you dream last night?
==> No, because I’m awake all night. LOL!

9. When did you last laugh?
==> when my 6 month old baby looked shy when i said goodbye to her, she looks funny. reallY!

10. What is on the walls of the room you are in?
==> pictures of me and my husband, and pictures of employees in our department

11. Seen anything weird lately?
==> very big YES————-the traffic update for my site, i can’t believe my traffic is now more than 8 million. it is exactly 8,858,069. i really can’t believe it, i don’t know what happened.

12. What do you think of this quiz?
==> it’s fun but not so, i think there are more interesting and fun tags right there, but I don’t get any of them. haha! I still don’t know how tags function. Like, how each blogger can tag each other, its amazing.

13. What is the last film you saw?
==> Don’t give up on us baby, nakakainlove! haha! judy ann and piolo are very good actors.

14. If you could change one thing about the world, regardless of guilt or
politics, what would you do?
==> all people would be equal, no rich, no poor. ngek! I can’t imagine that world. But anyway, that’s what I want.

15. Do you like to dance?
==> Not so

16. Imagine your first child is a girl, what do you call her?
==> Roneca Bless I’m not just imagining it okay? I’ts true. I have a first born named Roneca Bless, she is now 6 months old.

17. Imagine your first child is a boy,what do you call him?
==> Oh god, I don’t think I would be aiming to have another one. I’m even taking pills.

18. Would you ever consider living abroad?
==> I’m happy here in the Philippines, ever since, I never wanted to live there in the US.

19. What do you want to say to God when you reach the pearly gates?
==> God, please do something to save my loved ones left behind.